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In a blog I read recently called "Men, men, men" D writes:
"Carl Jung talks about a time in midlife when men and women begin to switch roles, around the mid-forties. While women are just starting to come into their stride, men are slowing down, going "a little soft" as he puts it. Gail Sheehy, author of Passages, among other books, seconds this notion.
Science backs it up. Men lose 1% of testosterone per year starting at age 30 and by age 50 at least half of all men have struggled with erectile dysfunction. In contrast, women's testosterone levels increase while estrogen levels are slowly dropping. Long established "sexual peak" ideas also put men and women at odds, with men peaking at 18 and women peaking at 35.
All in all it sounds like a recipe for conflict. Yet suddenly the notoriously immature middle-aged man dating 20-somethings begins to make a certain kind of sense, surely as much sense as the middle aged housewife's affair with the poolboy... Both men and women are changing and re-evaluating."D also writes:
"I see blatantly emotional appeals for a relationship at all costs, almost of a poetic quality, that I never noticed before. I see men, grown men, becoming obsessed with a woman. I see men getting cheated on and left. For some reason I never noticed these things going on--in my rush to stereotype, mostly due to being attracted almost exclusively to avoidant men, I never noticed this side of them before. Loving, getting attached, getting rejected, getting hurt."To this I would like to add that I've seen some men become so obsessed that they go to the lengths of wanting to be ‘enslaved’ to their loved ones. I read somewhere that in BDSM culture men over the age of 35 outnumber the younger males under 35 by six to one and that the proportion of those that are submissive in the older bracket is much higher than in the younger bracket. In the females, the younger ones tend to be submissive while many more of the older ones take a fancy for the dominatrix role… and it’s all to do with the changing of testosterone levels!
Fear not though, this changing of the testosterone levels, really ought to be good news all around. Men coming through their MLC intact should come to realize they now have a better capacity for understanding, sensitivity and consideration. Women can now realize they have the confidence to establish independence and control and enjoy their new found sexual prowess.
For those males who didn’t come through their MLC intact, don’t worry, go see a relationship counselor… and if that doesn’t work… you could try a dominatrix!!Just kidding about that last option
... No seriously I am
For the article called 'Men, men, men' by D click the link "under the palms".
Lapis, it will be a pleasure to invite you. Technically in the UK it is impossible to divorce and marry twice in one year because if you marry in the UK a divorce cannot even be considered by the courts until 1 year after the date of marriage. In my case I applied for the divorce in November 2005 and it was finalized in March 2006. I officially married Moon in Scotland in July 2006 with most of my family present. Since Moon's family who live in Vietnam could not come to Scotland, we arranged a Vietnamese style wedding celebration in October 2006. And thus I got divorced and married twice all in the same year. ;-)
Why can’t they all be the same?
Yet, I guess if they were
We’d never notice the ones that are different!
I live for comments, I really do.
Somebody to play my game with me.
How come we always want what we know we can’t attain?
You come across some that can give you everything
Others that give you what you couldn’t find inside the everything
And then…
Sometimes you can find those that give you what you never imagined.!!!
Hmmm... I prefered the original plagiarised version. It was far better! ;-)
Thursday 18 January 2007 - 11:15AM (GMT)
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